I stumbled upon these quotes from two very prominent men.
'One should not talk about the defects of others even if one is asked about them. One must try to avoid prying and asking personal questions about the private lives of others" [Al Ghazali, Kitab Adab pp 242-43]
"When you hear something from or about your brother, ascribe to it the best interpretation until you can no longer do so" [Imam Ahmad bin Hanbal]
Easier said than done, because bad habits die hard.
Easier to tell people to do, then doing it on your own.
But if we try doing it most of the time, we’ll have more peace, less conflicts, and less bad perceptions onto the others.
Let’s take on doing it.